The proof of fake mom blogs, and the reality of trying to keep it real.
I was innocently searching today “Diary of a “Real” Mom” to see if my blog even shows up on Google. It, of course, doesn’t… I don’t know how to get it to show up but I guess eventually with more experience I will figure it out.
I use to build websites when I was in high school, and I was an HTML and CSS coding genius. But the one thing I just never understood was the whole meta keywords thing and how come Google never wants to show my sites even if I search it word for exact dang word.
This was in 2003, and of course, the internet, websites, and meta keywords have come a long way. There is a lot more to it these days that’s for sure. I heard there is about 200 things that come into play where you are on the Google list. WOW! 200!
I mean it’s pretty much like the saying “you have to have money to make money,” I have to have people visiting my site in order for people to search and visit my site. LoL…
I swear there is some kind of conspiracy against me.
So, I’m scrolling and scrolling and it’s as if I don’t even exist in the slightest in the web universe. I then see this article titled, “My Mommy Blog Ruined My Life” on the New York Post, about 6 links down. Wow! That is exactly what I am doing, and here I thought I was the only one! Bubble burst. Kidding….
Josi Denise a 27-year-old blogger mom, starts by saying, “fake nonsense I used to share on the Internet . . . writing about my fake life and oh-so-happy marriage, calling it pure bulls**t.” In the article, she literally ADMITS to pretending to be happy and cheery all the time while in real life dealing with a failing marriage.
Here I am thinking, “HA!” This is exactly where the idea and concept for my blog came from. I don’t want to pretend things are great when they are not. Or pretend I have hardship when I do not. It goes both ways.
I start to read more and more and realize things are a bit more complicated than that. She goes on to explain that her sponsors and companies who pay her to write. She says they don’t want to sponsor someone who isn’t “little miss perfect”.
I don’t get that part though, because there are many kinds of sponsors out there. Everyone knows who Joe Rogan is (the famous podcaster), and of course many brands don’t agree with all his guests. So he picks brands that have more open-mindedness. Then again, I haven’t experienced that yet.
OPEN-MINDEDNESS. What a thought in these closed-off times.
So she admits to starting her blog being fake, gaining popularity being fake, and just all around being miserable and adding to the misery with her fake blog. That just doesn’t sound like something I would ever be interested in doing.
I learned a lot from that article though and I hope many can appreciate the fact that I won’t be doing fakery what-so-ever. I live for that specific point.
The only part I could kind of understand was the fact sponsors want this cheery persona in which they have their brand be a part of. I get it. A lot of people have an issue with real these days. Even though a lot of brands take sides politically, a lot don’t too.
Another thing I couldn’t understand in the article was her complaining about having to take pictures of the brand with her family. She states, “For instance, when I got my first paid ‘shopportunity’ with Tyson Foods for a game day, chicken-finger post, I wasn’t allowed to say ‘Super Bowl,’ because it’s copyrighted. I had to say ‘the Big Game.’”
I mean this brand is paying her to take pictures with their products… Does she just expect to get everything for free while doing absolutely nothing in return? So what she has a few rules as saying the big game?
She was complaining about getting free trips and having to take part of her time on the all-expenses-paid-trip, to promote the brand… The reason you are in Jamaica all-expenses paid is this brand. Umm…hello?? Oh, wait, she wasn’t complaining about the trip just taking the pictures…. eh, hm. I’m not trying to put anyone down, everyone has their opinions, reasons, whatever. I was just trying to understand.
Who knows though, maybe eventually I’ll be putting my foot in my mouth
Gratitude. Some people need to learn what this concept is as well. Just saying.
So my mom calls me, and she asks me,
“Do you want to keep this website vanilla, at least vanilla as possible for you?”
I tell her yeah…and I sigh…because I know her, and I know what’s coming. Here come the blows. The whole ‘mom telling you what you don’t want to hear but you know she’s right thing.”
I usually would have been like, “Heck no! Let’s strip naked and run through the streets! Metaphorically!” (like I haven’t actually done this).
But as much as I want this blog to be as “real” as I possibly can, that’s just not allowed in this day and age. I also can’t post some of the subjects I want to and without being rated NC-17, or R.
I say that because today I applied for a few different advertisers and was rejected… They don’t tell you why, but many of the guidelines state that you must have specific content. It’s like come on!? My site isn’t really that bad is it? I may have been rejected for the lack of visitors as well, but the thing was I just wasn’t sure.
I want to have people from all walks of life be able to enjoy this blog, butttttt I also want to be different from all the normal stuff you see online. I want to show that there are all types of moms in this world, and just because you are different doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
So there was a portion of my blog, in the beginning, called the “Stripper Diary”. It was of course about my job, but it looks like I am going to have to make it a separate entity. If people want to read it, they can, but I can at least have a little warning label and keep it separate from the “family” stuff for all those with G-rated ears.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Not at all! I don’t mind. That is exactly why I am doing it, I think it is the right thing to do.
Tell me what you think about that? Do you agree with the fake blogs out there to keep readers? Have you skewed the truth a bit to make everyone happy?
Your blog is showing up for me now when I search for “Diary of a Real Mom” on Google. Showing up at the top of Google results can take time (and a lot of hard work), especially if it’s a competitive search query. It looks like you have most of the basics in place for SEO, so now it’s just a matter of building up your website’s authority and creating more great content that’s structured for both search engines and people. One thing I would recommend is using more headers in your posts. Try to use an H2 or H3 with a good keyword between every 2-3 paragraphs. It’s a simple thing that can help a lot.
Thanks for checking back! I have been really trying to get SEO stuff implemented in my posts but it’s overwhelming. I will take your advice and try to go and add headers to every post with H2. I show up on Google, but I still don’t get a lot of visits… 🙁
I think you will get a decent following mama. But people like us, that “get” others like us, seem to be far and few in between. Not that I have a problem with that, in fact quite the contrary. I think people like us cross paths and are instantly and forever connected. So dont give up mama…I think this is super rad that you are doing this.
Thanks girl! I really hope, and I will continue to try. I think eventually people will actually prefer that there is someone who keeps it real and secretly find it refreshing. Even if they just become a lurker. I am going to keep it real to the end. I have overcome a lot but also am very happy in my life today, but of course i’m far from perfect. So, I have a lot of happiness to share, but it will only ever be real.